SuperSoul Short: When Breath Becomes Air | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network

SuperSoul Short: When Breath Becomes Air | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network

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Music IN THIS WEEK’S SUPER SOUL SHORT FILM, THE POIGNANT REFLECTION ON LOVE, DEATH, DEVOTION, AND A LIFE LIVED WITH PURPOSE THAT CAPTURED THE HEARTS OF READERS AROUND THE WORLD.    PAUL KALANITHI SPENT MOST OF HIS LIFE STRIVING TOWARD THE FUTURE.  PASSIONATE ABOUT BOTH SCIENCE AND WRITING, HE MAJORED IN ENGLISH AND BIOLOGY AT STANFORD, AND WENT ON TO EARN A MASTERS DEGREE IN ENGLISH LITERATURE.  HE THEN PURSUED A SECOND MASTERS IN PHILOSOPHY FROM CAMBRIDGE. Paul: If you asked me when I was 17 what I’d be doing with my life, I would have said, “I’ll definitely be a writer.” But I found after I completed my undergraduate studies,  that medicine was in fact the perfect place for the kinds of things I was interested in, and passionate about.  PAUL MET HIS WIFE LUCY DURING THEIR FIRST YEAR AT YALE MEDICAL SCHOOL.  FOUR YEARS LATER, THEY MARRIED BEFORE MOVING WEST TO BEGIN THEIR RESIDENCIES AT STANFORD.  BUT AT AGE 36, AS PAUL WAS CLOSE TO FINISHING NEARLY A DECADE OF TRAINING AS A NEUROSURGEON, HE RECEIVED A DEVASTATING DIAGNOSIS:  STAGE FOUR LUNG CANCER.  IN THAT SINGLE MOMENT, PAUL SAYS, EVERY DREAM HE HAD FOR HIS FUTURE DISAPPEARED…     Paul: You’re always thinking about five years down the line, what you’re going to be doing. That number has no meaning for me anymore. I’d say I now spend most of my time thinking about the present and what I plan to do each day, each hour, each minute. Clocks, which used to sort of rule everything, are now kind of irrelevant to me.  Having a terminal illness kind of forces you to think about your life and what matters to you. FORCED TO CONFRONT THEIR NEW REALITY, PAUL AND LUCY RE-ALIGNED THEIR RELATIONSHIP FOCUSING ON WHAT MATTERED MOST.    LUCY: There were a couple of things that were important to him. One was to return to work as a neurosurgeon and then to start writing. Those were the two big professional dreams that he had. He had sort of a sentimental thing that he really wanted to do which was to go back to the destination that we went to on our honeymoon. It was that same kind of feeling of a celebration or a commitment; we still had those feelings even though he was dying. I think the thing that Paul taught me and showed me is this really simple idea that life is not about avoiding suffering. It’s about finding meaning.    PART OF CREATING THAT MEANING WAS TO START A FAMILY…  Paul: The decision to have children after I was diagnosed was probably the biggest decision that Lucy and I had to make. But the way we ended up thinking about it is that, even if you’re dying, until the day you actually die, you are living. For me, it was important to know that Lucy would have a family after I was gone LUCY: I asked him this question: Is it going to make the fact of dying even more painful for you? And he said this really amazing thing, he said “wouldn’t it be great if it did make it more painful.” PAUL AND LUCY WELCOMED THEIR DAUGHTER CADY ON JULY 4, 2014.   Paul: Since Cady’s birth, my time with her has had a very peculiar and free nature.  It all feels to me like bonus time, in the sense that in all probability I won’t live long enough for her to remember me. At the same time, for me every day is an exciting, rewarding, meaningful time to spend with her. LUCY: Looking into those eyes feels like a real connection to Paul. There was sort of this contrast between dying and growing or living and it was all happening at the same time. One of the big challenges and privileges of my life is to help her understand that narrative of where she came from and who her dad was. Then she and I are together going forward.   PAUL KALANITHI DIED ON MARCH 9, 2015 AT THE AGE OF 37.  HIS SPIRIT AND HIS WISDOM LIVE ON IN HIS NEW YORK TIMES BEST-SELLING MEMOIR, “WHEN BREATH BECOMES AIR.”   LUCY: Paul as many of us are, was interested in the question what makes our life meaningful. PAUL: It’s a careful balance, if you don’t think about the bad case, that ending is going to be rough on you and your family. If you don’t think about the good case you’re going to miss an opportunity to really make the most out of your life and time.

74 thoughts on “SuperSoul Short: When Breath Becomes Air | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network”

  1. Oh my word I just finished reading his book and now watching this just makes it even more profound.Paul Kalanithi was such an amazing man with such a great sense of purpose.

  2. Why do successful, good educated and nice colored men ALWAYS have white women as life partners? I don't see white successful men with colored women and treating them as if they were a diamond.

  3. In the depth of despair.. this couple still took courage to find the positivity they needed to go on living.. Striving to find out the meaning of life.. Then in the midst of the difficult times.. To then start a family.. "what makes my life meaningful." I can't put into words how this has touched my heart.. When most would crumble.. they stood strong and carried on..

  4. If you haven't read When Breath Becomes Air, you must. His memoir will bring you to tears. Live and enjoy your life to fullest. That is the gift Paul left as part of his legacy.

  5. I just finished reading this book, it'll stay with me for a long, long time.Β  Not only Paul had a courage to live as a life full of promises ahead of him, he had a courage to face death right at front of him.Β  Thanks to belated Paul and Dr. Lucy Kalanithi for sharing this journey.

  6. Being in the medical field and having to go in and out of hospital for a medical condition myself for years, this really struck me. Such moving and beautiful words and Paul's positive thinking towards the end of his life was astounding. He has such courage and bravery and I'm so happy that I read this book.
    Paul, I hope you're resting easy, where ever you are. You have changed the lives of many and are continuing to do so even now.

    Rest In Peace.

  7. It saddens me immensely to see this young man given a death sentence so early in his life. So tragic he died. Life can be so cruel. At least he left his beautiful daughter to the world. Rest in complete Peace, dear Paul.❀❀❀

  8. Miss you paul, i Just read your book—-i am really sorry, i loose a chance to Prayer for You while you are in treatment, i love you So much —https://www.facebook.com/muhammed.shakeel.581

  9. Acceptance of any life situation will bring about great healing powers and is the place where miracles can happen, never really being in the moment deprives you from the natural energy flow

  10. It's so crazy how the good and hard working ppl die so young. I know we are not spose to question God but sometimes it's so hard when in life we see the bad ppl just be and ppl like Paul loose everything he's worked for and loved and Bam he's gone. It's just heartbreaking.

  11. It's been a long time since a book, a story took away from me so many tears. What I think a lot after reading this book is the meaning of living on this life. Why do I live on this life? What makes my life meaningful? If I were on his shoes, could I be strong? All the struggle of me for money, cars, house… would it still be real struggle? What would I have to do to survive the rest of my life?

  12. πŸ™ what a great to star your day watching this video! RIP doc! God needed a good neurosurgeon in heaven and more importantly a great human being!πŸ™ŒπŸ»

  13. This book really touch my heart, I remember that I finished at 0:18 am but I couldn't stop crying. Paul is a good doctor and a great writter.

  14. I think death is the most pure and fair act one can go through. It doesn't judge it doesn't discriminate you can't make a deal with it when it time for you to go there's no judgement. I'm sure it's a great book and he was a great man but that's just life moving is living.

  15. I came to know him very late.
    I'm not supposed to shed tears being a man.
    Damn, I try, and ………….. .
    Good people like my dad, mom and elder brother and Paul – leave early.
    To be humane is the most difficult thing.

  16. May your soul continue to Rest in peace. I hate cancer, it comes like a thief in the night. The love of my life died of cancer, in less than 6 months after diagnosis.

  17. Paul, you were a lovely man. I have learned many such things from your autobiography that I probably wouldn't have learned otherwise. Your attitude towards life and death has made you immortal. We will always love you,

  18. I cried from my heart when I am watching this vedio,in the middle of reading "when breath becomes air", and felt proud

  19. I cried from my heart when I am watching this vedio,in the middle of reading "when breath becomes air", and felt proud

  20. Reading his book reminded of my father he had cancer we lost him he also writers a poet to be precise i missed him so much

  21. Please accept my sincere condolence… At 2015/3/9, i had been preparing for repeating university enterance exam in korea. At that time i thought myself I'm the sadest and most misfortune person in the world but it was arrogance and imbecility of mine.(you know…people alway tend to think egocentic…haha.. Oh shame) Now i can feel and realize that no matter how hard situation to be in my life, i should and could "go on". I want to tell him thanks.

    My english isn't good.. so.. If i misspoke or said impolitly, please understand and correct it!

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